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Un libro muy bien documentado sobre qué es el acoso sexual y el acoso por razón de sexo, desde un punto de vista jurídico, histórico y humano y qué se está haciendo en el entorno académico español para paliarlo y qué más se puede hacer.
They live beneath the earth in a prison of their own making. There is a …
Review of 'Wool' on 'Storygraph'
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La idea de este libro es muy interesante. El libro se compone de tres historias, con tamaños en aumento, siguiendo a varios habitantes de un silo subterráneo. La cadencia de la historia se hace pesada a ratos, y aun con todo consigue mantener nuestro interés por entender qué está pasando.
La idea de este libro es muy interesante. El libro se compone de tres historias, con tamaños en aumento, siguiendo a varios habitantes de un silo subterráneo. La cadencia de la historia se hace pesada a ratos, y aun con todo consigue mantener nuestro interés por entender qué está pasando.
A recount of the pursuite of motherhood, first biological and then adoptive motherhood. All the steps towards an open adoption of two half siblings, 1 and 4 years old, until the eldest finishes primary school. The horror stories of abuse and neglect from the birth family and the imprint of these on the two kids. Sally Donovan describes the tiredness, the frustration, the lack of proper support from both feiends and professionals, without sugar coating the "dark side" of adoption, as she calls it.
Quotes on raising adopted children: “These children need approaching differently […], they need to feel safe and valued and only then might they start to learn.”
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Don’t deny their feelings, explore them.
Usual methods (threats, rewards, sanctions) do not work. The adoptees see themselves as bad and nothing we tell them will make them feel worse than they already do. Punishment …
A recount of the pursuite of motherhood, first biological and then adoptive motherhood. All the steps towards an open adoption of two half siblings, 1 and 4 years old, until the eldest finishes primary school. The horror stories of abuse and neglect from the birth family and the imprint of these on the two kids. Sally Donovan describes the tiredness, the frustration, the lack of proper support from both feiends and professionals, without sugar coating the "dark side" of adoption, as she calls it.
* Quotes on raising adopted children: “These children need approaching differently […], they need to feel safe and valued and only then might they start to learn.”
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Don’t deny their feelings, explore them.
Usual methods (threats, rewards, sanctions) do not work. The adoptees see themselves as bad and nothing we tell them will make them feel worse than they already do. Punishment should be “time in” with you, doing some chores together, for example.
When a situation is brewing: stop and think out an strategy. Employ something playful or accepting, showing curiosity and empathy.
In case of an anger explosion: 1) warn them calmly but firmly, that you are going to hold them on your knee to keep them safe; 2) sit them on your lap, facing away and hold them in a firm hug; 3) say “You are safe, I’m keeping you safe and that’s what parents do for their children”; 4) let the kid calm down; 5) revisit later on the incident, calmly, without blame and in narrative form (e.g. Earlier you were playing nicely and then something made you angry, can you remind me what it was?…Oh yes, it made you so cross that you tried to hurt xxx and Mummy had to hold you and then you calmed down and we ejoyed playing together).
* Other quotes: “For me, the quest for a family has never fundamentally been about our genes but about the experience of raising children.”
“We did not give our biological clocks room back then. Ageing was something we could hold back through sheer willpower and positive thought”
About infertility: “I would never have believed I could grieve so strongly for what I’d never had - a missing piece of the future.”
About not going through with IVF: “I am just not committed enough to the furtherance of my genes”.
About one of the first times carrying her adopted son: “[…] it feels delicious - to be needed, to be first in line.”
“I really wanted a baby and I couldn’t have one and it hurt”.
“What do I do? I can talk about what I used to do before child trauma came to stay and narrowed life down”.
Jessica Hepburn is 43 and making sense of motherhood when you cannot become a biological mother. She decides to do something big with her life: swimming the Channel. During her year of training, she meets with women of different backgrounds to enquire about motherhood.
Quotes: "you find happiness through the people you choose and the people you love"
"Connection is vital to human happiness, and if you can’t get it ready-made by having your own children you need to create it in different ways." But "people are most fulfilled when they have a passion."
"nature is not a feminist. Like many women of my generation, I didn’t ever consider that I would have a baby before my thirties."
About feeling sad and jelouse: "echoes of love I had for my children. You only grieve what you have loved. I loved my children, I just didn’t meet them"
"reasons being a …
Jessica Hepburn is 43 and making sense of motherhood when you cannot become a biological mother. She decides to do something big with her life: swimming the Channel. During her year of training, she meets with women of different backgrounds to enquire about motherhood.
Quotes: "you find happiness through the people you choose and the people you love"
"Connection is vital to human happiness, and if you can’t get it ready-made by having your own children you need to create it in different ways." But "people are most fulfilled when they have a passion."
"nature is not a feminist. Like many women of my generation, I didn’t ever consider that I would have a baby before my thirties."
About feeling sad and jelouse: "echoes of love I had for my children. You only grieve what you have loved. I loved my children, I just didn’t meet them"
"reasons being a mother is so important is because humans are happiest when they have connection with other people. "
"And nobody, not a single person, writes to me and says: ‘You’re forty-three, go and do something big and have a fulfilling life without children instead.’"
"never having sex for fun any more, because sex is only about having a baby which never arrives".
From Camila Batmanghelidjh: "if you take another route [to motherhood] you will have to accept that there will always be a third mother in the relationship."
"it's grief that has driven us to [...] extremes".
Quoting Rilke: "The answer to life is to live the question."
This book contains the 3 love stories of friends from a STEM PhD programme. The STEM parts are pretty great. The stories are different in the details, although the same in essence: girl meets the boy that turns out to be the love of her live. This reinforces the, very toxic, romantic love narrative, times three. The 3 partners are basically the same big man with different colour of hair. I feel that having STEM women as main characters is not enough, as all the stories from the author are in essence the same.
This book contains the 3 love stories of friends from a STEM PhD programme. The STEM parts are pretty great. The stories are different in the details, although the same in essence: girl meets the boy that turns out to be the love of her live. This reinforces the, very toxic, romantic love narrative, times three. The 3 partners are basically the same big man with different colour of hair. I feel that having STEM women as main characters is not enough, as all the stories from the author are in essence the same.
This book is amazing. It handles terrible events with respect and humor, without belittleing and without making such events life defining. Science, parenting and companionship define the story of Elizabeth Zott.
Some quotes: "Scientists expect mistakes, and because of it, we embrace failure."
"[...] Don't you think it's possible to believe in both God and science?" "Sure [...] It's called intellectual dishonesty".
Families required constant maintenance.
[...] the reduction of women to something less than men [...] is not biological: it's cultural.
"Religion is based on faith." "But you realize, [...] that faith isn't based on religion. Right?"
<spoiler> [...] he'd felt completely nonpulsed. [...] Amanda was his daughter and he was her father. He loved her with all his heart. Biology was overrrated.</spoiler>
This book is amazing. It handles terrible events with respect and humor, without belittleing and without making such events life defining. Science, parenting and companionship define the story of Elizabeth Zott.
Some quotes: "Scientists expect mistakes, and because of it, we embrace failure."
"[...] Don't you think it's possible to believe in both God and science?" "Sure [...] It's called intellectual dishonesty".
Families required constant maintenance.
[...] the reduction of women to something less than men [...] is not biological: it's cultural.
"Religion is based on faith." "But you realize, [...] that faith isn't based on religion. Right?"
<spoiler> [...] he'd felt completely nonpulsed. [...] Amanda was his daughter and he was her father. He loved her with all his heart. Biology was overrrated.</spoiler>
Review of 'Notes from the Burning Age' on 'Storygraph'
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Some very interesting ideas: a mindful society that has converted sustanibility into a religion. Long descriptions with interesting comparissons with nature.
Some quotes: "Grief never leaves, but life layers itself on top of the pain, time forming fresh scabs over bleeding wounds"
"idealists, to see the light in all things"
Some very interesting ideas: a mindful society that has converted sustanibility into a religion. Long descriptions with interesting comparissons with nature.
Some quotes: "Grief never leaves, but life layers itself on top of the pain, time forming fresh scabs over bleeding wounds"